Programme
Pleasurable Dating
Find love without losing yourself along the way.
A 5-month programme for women who want to date with confidence, clarity and a high standard – while enjoying life along the way.
Next programme start: autumn 2026.
You want love. A wonderful relationship. Closeness. Attraction. Security. Someone to share life with. And you do not have to pretend you are not longing for it.
But you also should not have to lower your standard, overanalyse every message or let dating take over your emotional life in order to find him.
Pleasurable Dating is about creating a life you enjoy, standing firmly in what you are looking for, and dating from security instead of fear.
What if dating could feel different?
Many women start dating focused on a single question: Will he choose me? Does he like me? Why hasn’t he texted? Should I be less clear? Am I too picky? Should I give him one more chance?
But the more secure you become in yourself and in what you are looking for, the more interesting a completely different question becomes: Do I want to choose him? Do our lives fit together? Can he meet my needs? Are his actions in line with what I am looking for? How do I feel when I am with him?
It changes the whole dynamic.
Your standard is not the problem
I do not believe in lowering your standard to increase the chance of finding someone. I believe in becoming clearer.
What do you long for? How do you want to feel in a relationship? Which values matter to you? What needs to be there for you to feel good? What are you no longer willing to compromise away? And then: Do you dare to communicate it?
Your standard helps you filter. Clarity helps the wrong men disappear faster – and the right men understand who you are.
Enjoy being single. Long for love.
You can create a wonderful single life and still want to share it with someone. You can feel independent and still long for closeness. You can enjoy the freedom and still dream of a great love.
The goal is not to become so independent that you do not need anyone. The goal is to not choose someone just to avoid being alone.
I am not going to lower my standard because I am afraid of being alone.
Five months. Five phases. A whole new dating journey.
Pleasurable Dating takes you through five phases – from defining what you actually want, to standing secure in yourself and being ready to choose love from a completely different place.
- 01 ReDefine
What do you actually want?
We start with you. Your vision for life and love. Your values. Your standard. Your must-haves and dealbreakers. Not who you think you should want – but the relationship and the life you actually want to create.
- 02 Release
Let go of what should not come along.
Old relationships. Disappointments. Dating patterns. Fear of being alone. People pleasing. Self-criticism and old stories about who you have to be to be loved. You do not have to let old experiences run your next relationship.
- 03 Reset
Build the life and the security you date from.
Here we move the focus back to you. Pleasure. Joy. Self-respect. Boundaries. Self-leadership. You build a steady platform and a life you enjoy living – so that love becomes something that adds to your life, not something that has to save it.
- 04 Rehearsal
Out into reality.
Now we put it all into actual dating. The profile. The matches. The messages. The conversations. First dates. Red and green flags. Communication. Attraction. Sex and intimacy. Choosing to continue – and choosing to let go. You get to practise, reflect and adjust along the way. Because dating is also something you learn by dating.
- 05 Ready
Ready to choose – not just be chosen.
You know yourself. You know what you are looking for. You trust your intuition more. You hold your standard even when you really like someone. You do not chase. You do not settle. The obvious question now is: Is this a man I want to choose?
This is not a course in how to make a man want you.
It is a five-month transformation in how you see yourself, your life, love and dating.
You should be able to long for love without panicking that it has not arrived yet. Hold your standard without wondering whether you are too picky. Let go without feeling you have ruined your only chance.
Enjoy the dating. Enjoy life. And be open to a wonderful relationship – without losing yourself along the way.