Programme
Pleasurable Dating
Find love without losing yourself along the way.
A programme for women who want to date with confidence, clarity and a high standard – while enjoying life along the way.
Next programme start: December 2026.
You want love. A wonderful relationship. Closeness. Attraction. Security. Someone to share life with.
But maybe you have started to lose hope. Dating does not feel as fun anymore. You meet men who do not match what you are looking for, and you start to wonder whether those really good men actually exist.
Maybe you wonder whether your standard is too high, whether you overanalyse every message, or you feel that dating takes far too much of your energy.
Pleasurable Dating is about creating a life you enjoy, standing firmly in what you are looking for, and dating from security instead of fear.
What if dating could feel different?
Many women start dating focused on a single question: Will he choose me? Does he like me? Why hasn’t he texted? Should I be less clear? Am I too picky? Should I give him one more chance?
But the more secure you become in yourself and in what you are looking for, the more interesting a completely different question becomes: Do I want to choose him? Do our lives fit together? Can he meet my needs? Are his actions in line with what I am looking for? How do I feel when I am with him?
It changes the whole dynamic.
Your standard sets the foundation. Your clarity attracts the right man.
I do not believe in lowering your standard to increase the chance of finding someone. I believe in becoming clearer. What do you long for? How do you want to feel in a relationship? Which values matter to you? What needs to be there for you to feel good? What are you no longer willing to compromise away?
And then the most important question: Do you dare to be clear about it?
Your standard helps you filter. Clarity helps the wrong men disappear faster – and the right man find you.
Find love when you are at your happiest.
You can love your single life and still long to share it with someone. Enjoy the freedom and dream of a great love. Be happy on your own and still want closeness, attraction and a partner by your side.
Because when you date from a life you already enjoy, the starting point is different. You do not choose someone to fill a void or because you are afraid of being alone. You can choose a partner who actually suits you – instead of someone who answers to old wounds and patterns.
I love my life just as it is. But with the right partner, life gets even better.
Five phases. A whole new dating journey.
Pleasurable Dating takes you through five phases – from defining what you actually want, to standing secure in yourself and being ready to choose love from a completely different place.
- 01 ReDefine
What do you actually want?
We start with you. Your vision for life and love. Your values. Your standard. Your must-haves and dealbreakers. Not who you think you should want – but the relationship and the life you actually want to create.
- 02 Release
Let go of what should not come along.
Old relationships. Disappointments. Dating patterns. Fear of being alone. People pleasing. Self-criticism and old stories about who you have to be to be loved. You do not have to let old experiences run your next relationship.
- 03 Reset
Build the life and the security you date from.
Here we move the focus back to you. Pleasure. Joy. Self-respect. Boundaries. Self-leadership. You build a steady platform and a life you enjoy living – so that love becomes something that adds to your life, not something that has to save it.
- 04 Rehearsal
Out into reality.
Now we put it all into actual dating. The profile. The matches. The messages. The conversations. First dates. Red and green flags. Communication. Attraction. Sex and intimacy. Daring to choose – and choosing to let go. You get to practise flirting, reflect and adjust along the way.
- 05 Ready
Only a F*CK YES is a yes.
You know yourself. You know what you are looking for. You trust your intuition. You hold your standard even when you really like someone. You do not chase. You do not settle.
You have created a life you enjoy – and the question is no longer "Will he choose me?" but:
Is this a man I want to invite into my life?
Yes, you want to find love. But this is about so much more.
It is a transformation of how you see yourself, your life, love and dating.
You should be able to long for love without panicking that it has not arrived yet. Hold your standard without wondering whether you are too picky. Let go without feeling you have just ruined your only chance.
Enjoy the dating. Enjoy life. And be open to a great love – while standing firmly in yourself and choosing a man who actually fits into the life you want to live.